By Lawrence Kaufman, Florida Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT)        561-302-0568
7301 W Palmetto Park Road, Suite 201A, Boca Raton FL 33433-3456
contact@kaufmancounseling.com         www.kaufmancounseling.com

 

Giving the Gifts of Love and Caring in Response to the COVID-19 Crisis  

          

 4-8-20

 

Suddenly, it seems, the world, our country, and our daily lives have been turned upside down! So much that we have taken for granted has changed – making our lives so much more stressful, depriving, and challenging. Losses are mounting. Fears and insecurities are increasing. Our lifestyles are becoming more and more restricted, constricted, and limited. Our financial security is being threatened greatly. Our emotional reserves are repeatedly being depleted. In the big picture, we are painfully aware of losing the anchors and bedrock assumptions that have structured our day-to-day activities, routines, and interpersonal relations.

Even our continued existence – our own, and our loved ones – has painfully intruded into our awareness and consciousness. The future is filled with uncertainty and unpredictability. For many of us, our personal, family, community, and societal resources are being challenged in unprecedented ways. Under these very trying circumstances, how can we then best cope with this intensely unsettling, disturbing, and disorienting threat to our happiness and basic security?

Some of us may need to be reminded, from time to time, that we all have much to give to ourselves and to others we care about. We can give ourselves and those we love many different kinds of gifts. Not just tangible gifts – as material goods, actual things we can see and touch – but precious, intangible, emotional gifts. We can give ourselves and others empathic (sensitive and accurately tuned in) listening, compliments, understanding, support, appreciation, caring touches, helping hands, and so many other good, genuine, and valuable, non-material things that come from the heart, and from our inner goodness.

Simply said, people need people. It is vitally important that we recognize and acknowledge this very basic human need for dependable, and need-satisfying attachments and relationships with others. One way in which some people meet some of their attachment needs is to be in individual, couple, and/or family counseling/ therapy. I view counseling/ psychotherapy as being a vital form of “education for living.”

In my experience, a great majority of people have not learned, or been taught, the skills necessary to successfully and effectively deal with, and sustain, personal relationships. None of us are born with good communication, problem solving, and conflict resolution skills. We need to have good role models and quality, lived experiences in order to gain these essential skills.  A limited and temporary “healthy dependency” on a knowledgeable, skilled, experienced, and caring mental health professional can offer people the psychological resources necessary to “fill in the gaps” in what has not previously been learned, digested, and metabolized.

If you are a resident of Florida, you may want to consider giving yourself, or a loved one, the “gift” of high quality, counseling/ psychotherapy sessions. These sessions can take place “remotely,” over the internet. You can arrange for safe (from potential infections) sessions through Skype video calls. (If you are not familiar with how Skype works, this can be explained to you.) In these very stressful and demanding times, you can access professional guidance and support from the comfort of your own home. In these times of practicing social distancing for your own (and others’) protection, these “virtual” meetings can fulfill many important, emotional and psychological needs that call out to be met.

We all can benefit from having additional resources that offer us increased understanding, hope, comfort, and optimism. Talking in a structured, confidential, respectful, and caring environment can be a good antidote to such things as loneliness, pessimism, anxiety, confusion — and “stuck” feelings, attitudes, and behavioral patterns.

I would welcome your reaching out to me! I hope I soon will be hearing from you so that we can explore your options of how to expand the psychological resources that could be available to you, and that you can soon take advantage of.

we can do video calls for individuals couples or family’s across many different platforms including Facebook, Instagram, whatsapp, Skype, and, zoom, so you or your husband wife or family dont have to leave your house and we can keep everyone safe by doing video calling for therapy. If you let us know if there is any other platforms you would like to use we can make the necessary provisions to setup for those platforms. we are ready to be there and help you cope and get through these tough times together. below we will provide some of are user names for the different platforms below.

 

skype : www.skype.com Skype name : live:.cid.971d04f1139a3329

facebook : https://www.facebook.com/kaufmancounseling

Zoom : https://zoom.us

zoom link to join : https://us04web.zoom.u/j/4536213159?pwd=NXNGbmVGUXRyaGRxcDVkUFJ4UkpCZz09

instagram : kaufmancounseling

     

By Lawrence Kaufman, Florida Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT)        561-302-0568
7301 W Palmetto Park Road, Suite 201A, Boca Raton FL 33433-3456
contact@kaufmancounseling.com         www.kaufmancounseling.com

     

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